Posted on October 9, 2025
Pregnancy is a journey for both parents, but sometimes the non-pregnant partner can feel a bit disconnected. Kick counting is a beautiful and practical way to bridge that gap. It transforms an abstract idea into a tangible connection with the baby. Here’s how to make it a shared experience.
Designate a specific time each day for counting, just as you would for yourself. This could be right before bed or after dinner. Your partner can sit with you, place a hand on your belly, and feel the kicks for themselves. This simple act can be incredibly powerful for bonding.
Turn it into a team effort. While you focus on feeling the movements, your partner can be in charge of the logistics. They can time the session using a watch or phone and log the kicks in the Fetal Movement Counter app. This gives them a clear, helpful role in the process.
Modern apps often allow for easy sharing of data. Show your partner the graphs and logs from the app. Seeing the patterns visually can make the baby's activity feel more real and understandable to them. It’s a great way to start conversations about the baby's habits, like, "Looks like she's a night owl, just like you!"
Don't just count in silence. Describe what you're feeling. Is it a sharp kick? A gentle roll? A series of flutters? Sharing these details helps your partner understand the different types of movements and feel more included in the day-to-day realities of pregnancy.
When you reach 10 kicks in a record amount of time, or notice a new pattern of activity, share the excitement! These small moments are milestones in your journey to parenthood, and they are best celebrated together.
Involving your partner does more than just give them a task; it invites them to be an active participant in the pregnancy, fostering a deeper connection with both you and the baby long before the due date.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional for any health concerns.
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