Posted on October 9, 2025
Pregnancy is a wild ride for the person carrying the baby, but for their partner, it can sometimes feel like they're watching from the sidelines. Kick counting is one of the most beautiful and simple ways to change that. It’s a bridge that turns the abstract idea of "the baby" into a real little person you can interact with together. Here are a few easy ways to make counting a team sport.
Pick a time that works for both of you—maybe it's right after dinner or when you're winding down for bed. Make it a ritual. Snuggle up on the couch and have your partner rest their hand on your belly. There's nothing more magical for a partner than feeling those kicks for themselves. It’s an instant connection.
Turn it into a true partnership. While you focus on feeling the baby's wiggles, your partner can be the official "kick-counting manager." Hand them your phone and let them be the one to time the session and tap the button in the Fetal Movement Counter app for every movement you feel. It gives them a clear and important job in this daily check-in.
Don't just keep the app's cool graphs to yourself! Show your partner the charts. Seeing the baby's patterns visually can be a lightbulb moment, making everything feel more real. It’s also a great conversation starter. "Look, it looks like the baby is a night owl, just like you!"
Don't just lie there in silence. Narrate the experience! Tell your partner what each movement feels like. "Whoa, that was a sharp one right on my bladder!" or "This feels more like a slow, rolling movement." Describing the sensations helps your partner feel like they're right there in the moment with you, sharing the experience.
Did the baby get to 10 kicks in record time today? Did you notice a new pattern? Share the excitement! These little moments are the building blocks of your journey into parenthood, and they're so much sweeter when you celebrate them together.
Bringing your partner into the kick-counting routine does more than just give them something to do. It makes them an active, essential part of the pregnancy, creating a powerful bond between the three of you long before your little one arrives.
Just a friendly reminder: This article is for informational purposes only and isn't a substitute for professional medical advice. Always chat with your healthcare provider about any concerns you have during your pregnancy.
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